Marriage is undefinable and is sought upon by many different types of individuals. It is thought of as a union of two people, a man and a woman, joined together in the eyes of God; or, it is seen as the coming together of two people, same sex included, to embrace the love they share for one another and the love that binds them. Just because one differs from the other, that does not mean that the marriage displays any differing sort of affection. The title still holds, it is recognized, and that's really it. Donne's "A Valediction: Forbidding Mourning" and Minty's "Conjoined" both exemplify differing views regarding the basis of marriage and its representation. While both use figurative language, similes, metaphors, and diction to generate perspectives, these perspectives could not be more contrasting. Donne sees marriage as a bond of love, cherishing, and calming, give and take sort of relationship. On the other hand, Minty sees marriage as a restriction: limited, miserable, distorted, and lonely.
Similes and metaphors are the object of discussion that reveal the meaning beneath both authors' poetry. However, the similes connote stories that are anything but similar. For example, Minty explains to his reader that marriage is like "an accident, like the two-headed calf rooted in one body, fighting to suck at it's mothers teat's; or like those other freaks, Chang and Eng." First of all, the imagery basically tells the story and reveals a unique vision of what the author was thinking when he composed this piece. Marriage should never be seen as an accident, it should be planned out and waited upon until the right moment occurs to take that next step. A two-headed calf did not choose to be the way it is; its path was chosen for it and now must live with this decision. Fighting for a bare essential of survival explains a couple's compromise over issues. One may want something different from the other, but because they are rooted together, this compromise must take place regardless if it results in happiness. Chang and Eng are siamese twins. They are separate individuals, different wants, needs, and desires, but are forced to remain together and make sacrifices based on the other: a marriage, according to Minty. Donne, however, sees the opposite and conveys the opposite with his figurative language. This author uses a compass, an instrument used for navigation or a different instrument used for drawing circles. In I Now Pronounce You Chuck and Larry, there's a scene where Rob Schneider portrays a minister at a gay marriage chapel. Despite the fact that it's hilarious, Schneider brings about a point of view that I believe is shared with the author: love is like a circle. It is not square or a heart because there are sharp edges that can be broken, but a circle is continuous and fluid and everlasting, like a marriage and like the love that bonds the marriage and forever keeps it vibrant and refreshed. This compass draws circles, perfect circles, that symbolize the fluid and continuous compromise and strengthening of the love shared between two people. Donne uses the "twin compasses" as a metaphor, basically stating that the souls of the couple are joined as one and will navigate through life together in one direction. However, if and when they do part, yes they will become two souls, but the arms of their compasses will forever point toward each other, and the path they lead will never be strayed from. This symbolizes spiritual love at its finest, in my opinion, and recognizes that true love never dies. Donne creates this image to relay a visual message of overcoming obstacles together and creating a perfect union that circulates around them forever.
Diction was the major contrasting element between the two poems that really set them apart from each other and employed the correct mood and tone that was attempted to be revealed by each author. To begin with, the titles of each poem can clearly makes themselves identifiable to decipher between a positive and a negative connotation. Minty uses degrading and demeaning words such as "deformed, accident, doomed, freaks, and cannot escape" while Donne riddles his rhymes through a much different choice of words, such as "joys, love, innocent, refined, soul, and grows". Each explains the mood of the poem and reveals what the author was thinking during his or her composition. Maybe, these words were generated through the foretelling of a personal experience, but it could also just be the overall attitude that the author has chosen to display. Either way, these words create contrasting reflections of one another and once again show a lack of comparison between the two poems.
Marriage is signified in many ways, and though there are many opinions regarding this union, the union itself never differs. It is what is made of this union and the love that binds this union that sets each marriage apart from the rest, and authors Minty and Donne thoroughly deciphered their views on marriage through similes, metaphors, and diction.
